One of the most common stresses for planning weddings of all sizes is the seating chart. While a small buffet-style reception may work best with a loosy-goosy approach, large weddings with specific meal plans should really employ assigned seats. And therein lies the potential for difficulty. Here are a few tips to help you get organized and make your seating arrangement a dream rather than a nightmare.
The sooner the better. Some couples prefer to wait until they have the RSVPs, or a few weeks before the wedding to work on the seating chart so they know who will be in attendance. While that logic is sound, we have found that the earlier you start, the less problems rise as you approach your wedding date. After you have your invite list, start laying out all possible attendees and organize your tables assuming everyone will come. As people regretfully decline your invite, you can shuffle accordingly.
Think outside the head table. Traditionally, a head table will seat the Bride and Groom and their whole wedding party. If you are not a fan of being squished between a long table and a wall, often elevated so the whole room can watch you eat, there are other options. Instead, use a sweetheart table. The happy couple can sit together at a smaller table, still visible by everyone in the room and the wedding party can sit with their family members if in attendance or their friends.
Channel your inner cupid. The very essence of a wedding is the joining of two people’s lives. That includes friends and family members. Her friends become his friends and vice versa. While planning your seating charts, think about the placement of your single friends. You have complete control over who they will interact with during the reception. If the groom knows a good guy that may be interested in your available girlfriend, put them at the same table – maybe even next to one another.
Promote peace. It’s a sad fact of life that not everyone will get along, even on your perfect day. If you have prior knowledge, or even a gut instinct that certain guests may not get along. Take that into account while laying out your seats. You want everyone’s experience to be amazing. Avoiding a potential argument, or discomfort between guests can contribute to a great experience.
While the seating chart can be incredibly important in the success of your reception, don’t let it overwhelm you. The main thing to remember is that at the end of the day, you will be married. So, plan early, seat people purposefully, and enjoy the party that is entirely dedicated to you and your love.
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